Whether you’ve been in a relationship for years or just months, you may be at a loss when it comes to your partner’s actions and personality when it’s no longer just the two of you.
Do you notice anything different about your partner when you’re around other people?
Don’t worry, it’s not just you. Many women often ask themselves the same question: Why does my partner change when his friends are around?
At home, when it’s just the two of you, you have no reason to believe that your partner doesn’t love you. He’s affectionate, considerate, and caring.
When you are out with his friends, though, things change
Maybe you’ve noticed that he doesn’t pay as much attention to you. Or, perhaps, he doesn’t pay attention to you at all! He might even act like a downright jerk.
So why does he act like this?
It’s not a great answer, but men have certain expectations to live up to around their friends
While you might see the considerate, caring side of him his friends may be used to the guy who laughs at or tells bawdy jokes, yells at the television during football games, and is known as a flirt.
Because that’s the personality that your partner’s friends are used to, he might be afraid that if they saw the other side of him he wouldn’t know where their friendship stood.
Women just naturally tend to be more forthcoming
They share their interests, beliefs, and values and aren’t afraid to get into deep conversations with one another and let others see their weaknesses.
Men, however, have historically been known for being the providers in a relationship and have taken on the role of protector and safe keeper.
So what does all this have to do with the way he treats you?
It can be very difficult for men to show a more sensitive side to themselves in a culture that actually values strong and powerful men.
There’s also the fact that men tend to play roles within their friendships, too. While women can have friendships that run the spectrum of emotions, men might have friends that are simply their 'drinking buddies' or friends that are their 'work buddies'.
Within those friendships, they have limited conversation topics and are limited as to what they share.
If they go outside of these roles, the relationships can change. For some men, that’s a scary prospect!