So you’re sorting through photos and you find the unmentionable – photos of his ex...
Naturally, you’ll have questions
Why does he still have them? How important are the pictures to him? Does he have pictures of any other exes?
These are questions you will want answered before jumping to any conclusions and making assumptions that could ruin an otherwise great relationship.
The photos you find may be just that, pictures from the past that mean something to him. Perhaps they remind him of a special person from his past or signify a time he remembers with fondness.
If you have ever kept pictures of your exes, you can probably relate to this, as it doesn’t necessarily mean he still carries a flame for her.
Knowing how important these pictures are to him and why will also help you figure out if this poses any type of threat. Bear in mind that the photos aren’t what actually pose the threat, but they could indicate he still thinks of her.
On the other hand, they may just be grouped in with other photos of friends from a particular time and perhaps that time included her.
If he has photos of only one ex, this may be cause for questioning
This may mean he thinks of that one 'ex' in particular, or it may just mean he’s lost photos of other exes over the years.
The number of photos may also be a determining factor in figuring out just what they mean. One or two pictures most likely won’t signify a need to worry, but several might depending on their nature and when they were taken.
For instance, if all his pictures of her are from the time when they were together, this could be construed as normal. If, on the other hand, he has photos of her that were taken after they broke up, you will definitely have some questions for him.
Another consideration is the medium in which the photos exist
Regular pictures that can be stored in a shoebox or photo album can be easily explained, but photos stored on a computer or cellular phone are more difficult to justify.
This is especially true of a cell phone because it probably means the photos weren’t taken all that long ago.
The key to understanding what photos of his ex do or don’t mean is trust. If you have a good relationship with him and trust what he says is true, the pictures will most likely not be an issue.
Perhaps he is just keeping them to remember a special time in his life while concentrating on the present. Don’t jump in with both feet and assume the worst. Instead, choose a route of clear communication and be open-minded about the end result.
The signs listed above could indicate he still thinks about his ex
Pay attention and approach it with an open mind. Do not make assumptions just because you suspect a few of them are present.
Instead, take the time to examine all the options. Your gut instinct will tell you whether or not a real issue is at hand.