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I want kids but my partner doesn't
All your life, you've had an image of your future and it’s always included a husband and children. Now, you’ve found the perfect partner. The only problem is, you want kids and he doesn’t. Is your relationship doomed?

The fact is, it’s still possible that your relationship could work out. It’s going to take a lot of compromising, however.

It might also take a lot of time

Many women make the mistake of getting pregnant anyway, thinking that the man will eventually come around and like the idea of having kids. This, howver, is a bad way of going about it. Not only can it make your relationship worse because the trust can be lost, but sometimes the man doesn’t come around and then you have a whole set of new problems on your hands.

The best thing that you can do is communicate with one another to find out why he doesn’t want children in the first place.

If it’s because he’s afraid of not being a good parent then this might be something that you can work out. Encouragement and even counselling might help convince him that he already has parenting skills that he didn’t know he possessed.

If, on the other hand, he’s not interested in sharing his life in that manner and having those responsibilities then it might be harder to convince him that having kids can be fulfilling.

Likewise, if he’s older and has already raised his children and doesn’t want to “start over” then there might not be much that you can do about it.


Whether or not the relationship will work also depends on you.

For some women, having children is a lifelong dream and they can’t imagine feeling fulfilled without them. If this applies to you then you might always feel as though something is missing and later on in life, regret not expanding your family.

Resentment can build up slowly and eventually ruin a relationship.

If you think that you can live your life without children then the relationship stands a chance of working. If you don’t, however, then it’s best to move on and find someone who shares your desire to start a family. After all, you don’t want to reach the end of your life and have regrets about what might have been.

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