All your life, you've had an image of your future and itís always included a husband and children. Now, youíve found the perfect partner. The only problem is, you want kids and he doesnít. Is your relationship doomed?
The fact is, itís still possible that your relationship could work out. Itís going to take a lot of compromising, however.
It might also take a lot of time
Many women make the mistake of getting pregnant anyway, thinking that the man will eventually come around and like the idea of having kids. This, howver, is a bad way of going about it. Not only can it make your relationship worse because the trust can be lost, but sometimes the man doesnít come around and then you have a whole set of new problems on your hands.
The best thing that you can do is communicate with one another to find out why he doesnít want children in the first place.
If itís because heís afraid of not being a good parent then this might be something that you can work out. Encouragement and even counselling might help convince him that he already has parenting skills that he didnít know he possessed.
If, on the other hand, heís not interested in sharing his life in that manner and having those responsibilities then it might be harder to convince him that having kids can be fulfilling.
Likewise, if heís older and has already raised his children and doesnít want to ďstart overĒ then there might not be much that you can do about it.
Whether or not the relationship will work also depends on you.
For some women, having children is a lifelong dream and they canít imagine feeling fulfilled without them. If this applies to you then you might always feel as though something is missing and later on in life, regret not expanding your family.
Resentment can build up slowly and eventually ruin a relationship.
If you think that you can live your life without children then the relationship stands a chance of working. If you donít, however, then itís best to move on and find someone who shares your desire to start a family. After all, you donít want to reach the end of your life and have regrets about what might have been.