You can survive without a boyfriend – but your girlfriends are crucial to your happiness and wellbeing. Make sure you have the right ones...
While we love the men in our lives and we treasure mom’s great advice and wisdom, some things are just better to share with a woman around our own age – this is what friends are for!
"True happiness consists not in the multitude of friends, but in their worth and choice." - Samuel Johnston
Unfortunately many of us can count our real friends on one hand. So if you are on a friend hunt there are a few types of which you need to be careful – because let’s face it – we all want more friends, but we really don’t need or want more drama.
The drama queen
The drama queen isn’t happy unless she is freaking out. Little things us normals would shrug off – like missing a bus or a broken heel – will be a shriek fest for a drama queen.
She doesn’t get flu; she gets some unknown disease, and she is the only one in the world who had a bad day. Everything in her life is a crisis.
Whilst this special kind of woman may need somebody, you don’t want that somebody to be you because there will be no YOU time with this friend. It will always be about her and how life is handing her a raw deal.
Luckily these types can’t help but reveal their true colours at an early stage, so unless you want to be the extra in the movie of your own life, kick her off the set.
"I don’t have female friends because all the women I meet are jealous of me."
If the fact that she is so full of herself doesn’t put you off, the fact that she will be clingy because you are one of few female friends around, should. There is a reason that she doesn’t get along with many women, which you will figure out soon enough if you stick around.
Also known as the frenemy. This kind of 'friend' has buckets of suggestions and ideas on how to make you look and act better.
She is the kind that will notice if you have picked up two kilos, and she will be the one to notice just before going out that you have a huge pimple on your face and "nothing will cover that monster", and yes, she will be the one to tell you that your ass looks fat in those jeans.
She may be helpful in a way, but nobody constantly wants to hear the bad. If she could ease up on the critique and offer some compliments then maybe you can keep her. The question is, does she even know how to give a compliment?
Friends are the ones who pick you up when down, not those who kick you further down.
The man hunter
You will pick up this kind of woman by the way you become invisible as soon as there is a guy in the vicinity. She will never be a good wingwoman because she will only put in a good word for herself – remember you are invisible.
This can cause many arguments and she will end up apologising, only to do the same thing next time you are out.
Let’s face it, women are weird but wonderful characters; we are not all the same but we do have similarities. We can handle being alone but why should we have to?
Everything in life is more exciting if you have someone to share it with – which is why friends are so important.
Most importantly – a friend is someone with whom you need to feel comfortable, and who will not constantly knock down your self esteem.