Having your partner's mother in your home can be trying, but with a little compromise and patience, you'll find you can live harmoniously...
So the mother-in-law is moving in and you’re trying to find a way to cope. The good news is that living in harmony is, in fact, possible.
It may not be perfect, but with a little work, patience and understanding, you can find that happy medium that will satisfy all who will be occupying the same space.
Even if you get along with your mother-in-law, living with her will most likely prove difficult at times. This is because the two of you will probably have some different ways of doing things, and she might not be shy about expressing her opinions, whether or not they are welcome.
Keep communication open
You will also probably not hesitate to voice your own, thus leaving your husband somewhere in the middle. The key to dealing with this is communication. Listen to her and urge her to listen to you. Don’t expect your partner to take sides. This may introduce a whole new dimension into your relationship with her and can result in the development of a mutual appreciation.
Try to make her comfortable
Prior to move-in day, consult her about how she might be made comfortable. Allow her to make decisions about her own personal living space, even if it is only one room.
Let her keep belongings around her that are of great significance. Store others she really wants to keep, even if it means making space in your (probably already overstuffed!) garage. Remember, her possessions are just as important to her as yours are to you.
Include your mother-in-law in all family activities. She is, after all, a part of the family and should feel as such.
Encourage her to have her own life
Encourage her to continue taking part in the hobbies she enjoyed prior to moving in with you. It is very important for her to experience as few interruptions to her former life as possible.
Seek out activities that you and your mother-in-law can enjoy together. It is now even more crucial that the two of you get along, and finding common ground can be the first step towards making that happen.
The addition of your mother-in-law to your household will bring about many changes, but there are sure to be as many positives as negatives. The key is to work through the issues that will arise while bearing in mind everyone must adjust, including her.
Following the suggestions above can help make the transition for all go more smoothly and lead to that peaceful harmony you are no doubt seeking.