Have you had relationship training? Most of us will answer no...
Consider that, for every single career you go into, you need to have a degree, or some form of training to be competent in fulfilling on the job adequately. Some careers involve 14 years of study (e.g. a neurologist), and then, on average, another three years to gain full integration and competence in a subject. But then, without experience, you are still not eligible for a job!
Do we have anything like this for relationships?
No, and yet most people have one, and it's these very relationships that, when good, are great, but if bad, really impact our lives professionally, emotionally, spiritually, mentally and even physically.
We go into relationships with no training, and then we get hurt, and then we enter a new relationship again with no training and then again we get hurt.
Eventually we are entering relationships with so many barriers to entry we don’t allow our partner in, and then it doesn’t work, or we miss the closeness and connection (but at least then we are safe).
Relationships make up our lives – they ARE our lives, and we live through relationships
When you are on your death bed, you do not scream out “Bring me my awards, my car and my company!”
What you do want around is your mom, your partner, your children, etc., so the relationships that mean something to you.
Relationships are a great opportunity for you to learn and grow – if you let them
The most significant relationship holds most of the keys, as they have the power to push all your buttons, and every time you go into reaction, this is something for us to look at, as it’s that what we haven’t owned yet in ourself and an opportunity to do so.
The world exists of relationships – therefore having power here = having power in your universe
So what relationship coaching is, is a process to get you to have power over yourself and your relationships, and to get the training you need to take everything to a new level.
Many people only start marriage counselling or therapy when things have gone wrong
I say it should be the other way around ...you should start relationship coaching when it IS working – then you are in the right space to integrate the new awarenesses and can start applying without needing to overcome all the breakdowns first. It can be just can be as powerful if you already find yourself in a relationship where things have already broken down.