Does marrying in your 30s or 40s rather than your 20s mean there's a better chance that your union will last? We weigh up the options...
There has been a great deal of debate over the ideal age for people to marry for generations now.
It seems everyone has an opinion on the subject, every one of them influenced by personal experience. Unfortunately, what works for one person doesn’t necessarily work for another, so no matter how well-meaning the advice you get from friends and family may be, it may not exactly apply to you.
One thing that we do know for sure is that multiple surveys about the ideal age to get married tend to show that the longer a couple is together before marriage, the greater the likelihood that their marriage will be a lasting one. It’s a statistical fact that marriages between men and women who are 30 or older tend to be stronger than those of individuals in their 20s or earlier.
So what exactly does age have to do with it?
Again, it can vary from individual to individual, but generally speaking the older you are the more chance you have of being settled into your life, being financially secure and, most importantly, of understanding and accepting who you are as a person. And all of this can have a direct impact on the success of your marriage.
Research shows us that teenagers who marry are usually ill-prepared for the responsibilities that marriage brings with it. In most cases, they are still in the process of maturing and do not really have a handle on what they want to do with their lives or what it will take to get there. This can lead to a tremendous amount of upheaval as the two partners age and ultimately grow apart.
It's about knowing who you are
By 30, on the other hand, most people will have settled into a career path, established themselves financially and have a clear idea of what they want in terms of starting a family. This gives them a better idea of what to look for in a potential mate and a greater likelihood that they will make an informed decision when they do find that special someone.
The more sure you are of yourself, the more you can bring to a relationship and the better your chances of building a strong union with your partner. You won’t have the added stress of wondering how you’re going to make ends meet and you can be more confident in finding someone who shares your viewpoint.
Of course, none of this is a guarantee
Your marriage can still fail even if you wait until your 30s, or you can still have a strong marriage even if you jump into it out of high school. For many young couples, there seems to be no sense in waiting around until the 'right age' if they already know who they want to marry.
There are a lot of mitigating factors including family background, spiritual beliefs, maturity level and education level, that can have an influence on the success of a marriage at any age.
The bottom line is that marrying after age 30 does not have to be a disaster and can, in fact, help to give you a leg up in terms of making your marriage work. The important thing is finding someone with whom you can share your life and build a strong partnership.
Love is always the key, no matter what age, but a little maturity can definitely be a good thing!