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What DO men want?
Simone Sevenster chatted to some men of all ages about what they want from their partners and relationships...

Don’t all of us sometimes wish we could be trapped in a movie like What women want? But of course, just the opposite version, because what we really want to know is what men want! We want to hear all their thoughts, deepest secrets and find out exactly what they are looking for...

Unfortunately, as we know, it is impossible to hear what men are thinking

That’s why I chatted to some men of different ages in order to find out exactly what they want when it comes to women and their love lives.

Most of the men aged between 20 and 25 agreed that a woman’s looks are very important. No surprises there!

One of them, FC Pelser (20), states that he wants a girl who is not pretentious around him. Concerning sex in a relationship, Pelser says that sex isn’t everything, but a woman with kinky sex fantasies is definitely a bonus.

The good news: as they mature, their needs mature

Willie Fourie, (aged between 25 and 30), thinks that inner beauty is more important than beauty on the outside.

Fourie and most of the men in his age group emphasise that friendship plays a very important role in a relationship. “I want to be able to communicate with my girlfriend. I want us to be best friends,” he says. Regarding sex, Fourie states that it is part of a balanced relationship. “Sex is, of course, very important in a relationship. There is nothing unhealthy about having sex more than twice a week,” Fourie adds.


What they DON'T want

Louis Jacobs, a middle-aged man, states that the little green monster called jealousy is an absolute no-no in a relationship. According to Jacobs, love is what builds and progresses a relationship and therefore it is the most important aspect in any partnership.

He states that respect is one of the basic elements of a relationship. “Respect is something that has to be earned,” he says. Furthermore he explains that a woman must know her place in the house and that sex is always welcome as long as it doesn’t control the relationship.

They all want an independent woman

According to Carolin Dahlman, a professional love coach who specialises in the happiness of couples, men like women who have their own lives and interests. Dahlman adds that most men are attracted to women who can function on their own, because that means they will not be too dependent on them.

She highlights that men need space: “When a woman worries too much or stops him from seeing his guy friends, she is a pain. Men want women to be more easygoing about things,” she says.

Make the most of your natural assets

Dahlman explains that because men are visual by nature, looks are very important for most of them. She does, however, add that men do not like women who are plastic or fake; they prefer women with natural beauty.

There you have it girls: a little piece of his mind, heart and his naughty side. Now you can’t claim you didn’t know he wanted space!

One last piece of advice from Dahlman: “Be mysterious and play hard to get, but in a fun way. Try not to always be in his face, and be strong - it is indeed sexy."

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