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Relationships can get past their sell by dates. Here's a male perspective from Anthony Rockliffe...

Holding on when it is time to let go is ultimately more pain than it is worth, yet so many do it.

What begins as a scratch becomes a deep cut and then starts to fester. You need to know when to cut loose the ties that bind, and makes sure that it’s not your heart that gets the chop.

In this three-part article I will cover: How to know when it’s time to go, what stops you from going, and how to end it.

So, if you are in a relationship that you think may be past tense, and it's not just you sabotaging it, here are some signs that the sun is setting on your partnership:

You are being abused emotionally or physically

If you are in any danger, then get out, now. If necessary get external help with the situation, just get out.

It’s a one (wo)man show

If you are working at it alone and the other person shows no desire to pull their weight, it’s doomed. Only one partner rowing and the boat will just go in circles.

Your emotional needs are not being met

Let’s face it, if the relationship is more frustrating than fulfilling, then what’s the point? Is this a relationship that you want to be in, in the long term?

You often think about the beginning of the relationship and miss those old feelings

Relationships should get better over time, who wants to walk through a dying garden? No-one. If both parties are willing to rekindle the flame then fine, but if the relationship is terminal, let flat lines be flat lines and walk away.

You have started giving up more and more of yourself, your core values, your beliefs, your dreams, in order to resuscitate the relationship

Again, put down the paddles and step away from the corpse. Let flat lines be flat lines.

You have cut off formerly close relationships with friends and family

No healthy relationship would demand that.

You feel increasingly empty inside

That’s a clear sign that you need “me” time at the very least. It’s time for a break.

You make excuses to be apart

Deep down you know it’s over.

You are changing yourself to please your partner

No one is saying that some habits shouldn’t be changed, but if he makes you feel not good enough, he isn’t good enough for you.

Relationships do need work sometimes - some relationships deserve it, and some don’t. Walking away from a bad one is the best thing you can do.

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