What do you do when your partner takes a little bit of jealousy just a little bit too far? What do you do when his jealousy becomes downright scary and possessive?
Jealousy is a natural emotion and one that most people experience at some point
A little bit of jealousy doesn’t have to be a bad thing. In fact, jealousy can be a good motivator to try new things, reach new achievements, and make you thankful for things that you have. When jealousy turns to extreme possessiveness, however, it can be unhealthy.
The difference between a little bit of jealousy and extreme possessiveness lies within the partner’s actions. If your partner puts their arm around you when another man is talking to you that might show a small amount of jealousy.
On the other hand, if your partner pulls you away when another man is talking to you and tells you not to talk to him then that’s more of a sign of possessiveness.
At its root, possessiveness can be a sign of low self-confidence
Your partner might be possessive because he's afraid of losing you and any attention shown to you by someone else might scare him into thinking that you may leave him.
On the other hand, possessiveness might also be a sign of control and power. Your partner may be acting possessively towards you because he wants to hold power over you and your actions and this can be very unhealthy and even a little dangerous.
Possessiveness is often a red flag for the beginnings of an abusive relationship
Sometimes, a possessive partner might try to get you to stop going out without him, cut off communication with friends and family, and even quit activities and jobs that he doesn't don’t approve of. This might not happen all at once.
If you find that you are getting uncomfortable with your partner’s behaviour then you should definitely try to talk to him and voice your concerns. If communicating does not seem to be helping, though, then you should definitely reevaluate your relationship. This is particularly true if you are changing your lifestyle because your partner’s jealousy and possessiveness is forcing you to.
A little jealousy can be normal and harmless
Extreme possessiveness, however, can be frightening and even the first signs of abuse. Try talking about your concerns first but never stay in a situation that makes you feel uncomfortable. Control over a partner is never a sign of love.