Any normally functioning relationship can be a success; there is no secret. It just takes good old-fashioned hard work.....
The whole point of a relationship is to see if it will be something worth working on for the long term
Its purpose is to find out if the person you are with is somebody with whom you could spend the rest of your life. What people aren't aware of however, is that there is a predictable path that all relationships must go down, there are predictable landmarks and a series of unspoken tests that must first be passed long before you say, "I do".
The whole whirlwind romance and a sprint down the aisle thing is a bit crazy in my books
Now if this is how it happened for you I mean no offence, but what it does mean is that the couples who do this must go through much of what they should have gone through during the dating phase, and once you have tied the knot it's a little harder to walk away if you discover that the relationship actually isn't worth all the hard work.
We see this played out time and time again in the tabloids as celebrities get hitched and then get unhitched.
So could knowing what the way of relationships is help you to weed out the good from the bad, and make the relationship you want work out?
You bet it could. Just like you have gauges on your car's dashboard that show you what's going on under the hood, so too are there gauges for relationships. Just like there are signposts at the side of the road that show you if you are on the right route to your destination, so too are there signposts in relationships that can tell you if you are on the road you want to be on.
A very wise person one said, "If you want a happy relationship you will have to pay, you will pay in attention or you will pay in pain."
It's true; if you fail to pay attention to your relationships you will pay in pain, and will continue to do so until you learn your lesson.
Over the next few weeks I will be showing you what I know about the Tao of relationships. I don't claim to know it all but what I do know is that my life is working, and if my life is working yours can as well. What I will leave you with today are two things that can have a tremendous positive impact on your relationships, but these two things can seem to be the hardest things to do: don't rush, and pay attention.